Do you ever feel so upset that you don’t want to do anything? You neglect your household chores. You don’t want to eat healthily. You don’t want to go anywhere. If you’ve felt this way, don’t worry; you’re not alone.

As one Milford, Indiana woman recently shared on Facebook, this is what depression looks like: neglecting the tasks you’re supposed to do simply because your emotions forbid you. The woman’s message quickly spread on social media, and others acknowledged the reality surrounding mental health.

This Is What Depression Looks Like

Brittany Ernsperger’s dirty dishes piled up in her kitchen sink for two weeks straight. Her depression and anxiety were so overwhelming that she couldn’t even wash her dishes. She just sat and stared at them while she cried.

When she finally washed the dishes, she shared a picture of her abundant number of dishes she neglected—expressing that this is what depression looks like.

“I knew they needed to be done. I wanted to do them so bad. But depression pulled me under,” Ernsperger shared.

What People Don’t Talk About

Mental health is a popular topic of discussion, but there are many things people still don’t talk about, including what depression really looks like. For Ernsperger, depression is a constant downpour of “bad emotions” that keep people from completing daily tasks.

“I feel incompetent, stupid and lazy,” she commented. “Being scared to let people into your home because they’ll think you’re nasty. Feeling like you’re failing your kids.”

But what Ernsperger wasn’t expecting is that more people relate to how she feels than she thought.

An Overwhelming Amount Of Gratitude

Ernsperger’s Facebook post spread on social media, gaining thousands of comments from people who relate to the 25-year-old’s thoughts on depression.

“I was pretty sure I was alone,” she said.

Now she knows more people are in the same boat as her, but the most important lesson she has learned is that it’s okay to struggle. She hopes she can inspire others to be kind to their bodies and mind.

“It’s okay not to be okay sometimes,” she reflected. “You’re not alone.”

And, she adds, you’re doing the best you can.