Sadly, as many as 42% of married couples get divorced. This begs the question, what can you do to ensure your relationship goes the distance? In short, the answer lies in clear and frank communication. In light of that, we’ve listed a few meaningful conversations you should have with your partner before tying the knot.

What Does The Future Hold?

You should talk about how you and your partner see yourselves in ten years. You want to look at whether your hopes and dreams align with one another— the last thing you want is for either one of you to hold each other back. In the long run, this only breeds resentment which is just a recipe for disaster.

Here are a few things to consider talking about as part of this conversation:

  • Do you want to work towards owning property?
  • What kind of home do you want, and where?
  • What do you envision your career looking like?

Finances

It’s not unheard of for couples to argue over money, so it’s critical to discuss how you’ll handle finances. You should consider whether you’ll have a joint account and if you’re planning on opening a savings account together, and if so, how much do you want to put aside each month?

More importantly, you should disclose whether you have any impending debts that need paying off. Your fiance has a right to know before they make a life long commitment to you.

Family

How does your fiance feel about having kids? By this we mean, do they even want them? If so, when and how many?

On a more difficult note, how will you and your partner handle not being able to have children? Would you consider going through IVF or adopting? Alternatively, how will you and your partner raise your children? These conversations can be difficult, but if you’re in this relationship for the long haul, they’re worth having.