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So, you’ve finally decided to take the next step in your relationship: moving in together. While this big move may seem glamorous and romantic, it actually takes a lot of work. Here are five pieces of advice to keep your relationship happy and harmonious when settling into your first home together.
Compromise Is Key
Cohabitating isn’t always easy, especially when you’ve never lived with your significant other before. This is where compromise comes in. Both individuals need to learn how to communicate and understand one another in order to make living together work. Prioritize harmony in the household over always needing to get your way. We’ll have more on the importance of compromising later, too.
Divvy Up The Dirty Work
Sharing is caring. That goes for sharing cleaning responsibilities as well. It is important to be clear about who does what when it comes to picking up around the house. Failing to delegate these responsibilities can end up with couples resenting each other for ignoring chores they didn’t know they were responsible for. If all else fails, agree to disagree and hire a house cleaner.
It Just Takes Some Time
The truth is, you aren’t going to love living together in the beginning. You’ll be bumping elbows in the bathroom getting ready in the morning and likely butting heads as you take time to adjust to each other’s quirks. And that’s totally fine. It takes time to adjust to a new living situation. Practice patience during these first few weeks.
You’re living together now, so you should be budgeting together as well. While cohabitating is a great way to cut living expenses, each of you needs to be upfront about who is paying for what. Talk it out. Remember the importance of compromise. Leaving money issues unsaid is bound to create problems in the immediate and long-term living situation.
Be upfront about who you are and all of your quirks. Chances are, your partner doesn’t know how you like to do things around the house. And that’s okay. Learn to vocalize your boundaries and be honest about how you like to spend your time at home. No one likes a passive aggressive partner, so nip this issue in the bud and get real about who you are as a person. Your partner will appreciate it.