No two relationships are the same. Yet for some reason, there are tons of “love rules” that have been passed down through the ages that we’re supposed to follow. While those rules may come in handy and help a relationship out on occasion, that is not always the case. Here are five love rules you might want to think twice about before blindly following them if you truly want what is best for your relationship.
Keep It Slow And Steady
It’s true that taking things slowly at the beginning of a relationship is usually a good idea. However, if your intuition is telling you that moving things more quickly is right, then do it. Shared, strong emotions usually don’t lie, and as long as you’re both honest about how you feel and your intentions, speeding things up might not be such a bad idea.
Never Go To Bed Angry
It is not always a good idea to try to work things out in the heat of an argument. Why not let it sit awhile until you’re both in a better state of mind. This sometimes means going to bed angry, believe it or not. Breaking this relationship rule will likely save you both from lots of unnecessary drama, and you’ll be in a better mind to talk things through in the morning.
Wait For Him To Say “I Love You” First
If you’re a mature adult, you don’t need to play games. Waiting for him to share his feelings first is definitely a game. If you’re in love and you’re sure of it, tell him. If he doesn’t feel the same way, waiting to tell him wasn’t going to change that. Likewise, if he’s a mature adult not quite sure how he feels yet, you loving him won’t be enough to scare him away.
Honesty Is Always The Best Policy
Honesty in an of itself is not what makes relationships last. Yes, it is important to be truthful about things that are important to the relationship. However, keeping certain other things to yourself can sometimes leave you both better off. You don’t need to tell them every time you have a passing thought about an ex, for example. Why create that unnecessary stress if it’s just a passing thought?
Never Make A Sex Schedule
Scheduling sex is said to destroy the passion of it, but is that necessarily the case? Does planning sex mean the sex is actually void of passion? Probably not, the same way that planning a date doesn’t make it less romantic. Sometimes life is just too busy not to schedule sex. If the alternative is not having sex, making a sex schedule seems like a good idea.