5 reasons you should ditch tradition and have a “first look” at your wedding

Spoiler: It’s not bad luck

Quick Notes:

  • It’s not bad luck for the bride and groom to see each other before the wedding ceremony.

  • A “first look” is an intimate, personal moment you won’t want to miss.

It’s your wedding day. You can’t wait to marry the love of your life. You’re ready to start the next chapter of your life with this special person. But, according to tradition, the bride and groom aren’t supposed to see each other on the big day until the bride walks down the wedding aisle. This is a longstanding tradition, but now it’s more frequently considered an ancient custom.

Instead, more and more couples are participating in a “first look.” In this practice, the bride and groom see each other for the first time before the wedding ceremony. It’s often photographed on camera and it allows for a more intimate meeting between the couple. Below are five valid reasons you should participate in a “first look” at your wedding.

Less pressure on the bride

It can be stressful to walk down the wedding aisle. Brides often worry about tripping on their dress. They may also worry about stumbling over their vows. Most often, their groom is the one person in their life who knows how to calm their nerves. But if you can’t see him before the wedding, he won’t be there to comfort your nerves.

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During a first look, you can see your groom before you walk down the aisle. He can help eliminate your nerves and take the extra stress off the wedding day responsibilities. It’ll be a reminder that you’re getting married to start a life together, not hidden away from each other.

He’s less stressed, too

The groom feels pressured to have the perfect reaction when he sees his bride for the first time. People look at the groom just as much as they look at the bride. Is he going to start crying? Is he going to drop his jaw in amazement? But what happens if the groom isn’t as expressive as others? He might be judged for his facial expressions, which adds more stress to his wedding day.

To help prevent this, a first look gives the groom a chance to see his bride for the first time without worrying about what people think of his reaction. He has the opportunity to tell you, privately, how beautiful he finds you. He can voice his emotions with just you — the love of his life. You can return the favor.

It’s more intimate

There is too much pressure on the bride and groom to be perfect. You can get distracted, knowing people are watching your every move. A first look gives you a more private, intimate meeting with your future spouse. You won’t have to meet before hundreds of your family and friends.

Instead, a first look allows a couple to enjoy seeing each other for the first time without worrying about other people rushing them or having their own opinions. You can be alone (except for a photographer) and you can pretend you’re the only people in the world.

The cocktail hour won’t be as long

You can take more intimate photos during the first look and you won’t have to take as many photos in between the significant moments of your wedding day. After all, you’re supposed to enjoy your wedding.

After the wedding ceremony, guests wait during a cocktail hour while the newlyweds, their parents, and the wedding party disappear to take group photos. It can usually take an hour or so to photograph these special memories. However, a first look will take care of the majority of the photos between the couple before the ceremony.

In addition, your guests won’t have to wait around as much during the cocktail hour. They’re ready to start the reception. The bride and groom are usually ready to start the reception as well. No one will be restless.

Your wedding day is longer

If you decide to do a first look, you will have to arrive earlier at the wedding venue to get dressed and get all of your private photos done before the ceremony. Your wedding day usually goes by far too quickly. If you want to make it last a little longer, participate in a first look. You will see your future spouse sooner in the day, making it seem like you’re spending the whole day together.

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