Did you know that your perfectionism is really sabotaging you?
Being a perfectionist does have some benefits. A perfectionist will often go the extra mile to do a great job on the things they commit to. However, in reality, there is no such thing as perfect. Striving to be perfect can easily lead to disappointment in many facets of life. Here are five ways in which perfectionism can ruin your life. If you’re a perfectionist, it might be time to strive for a little balance instead.
Being Perfect Is Exhausting
Because perfection does not exist, it is unattainable no matter how hard you try. As such, perfectionists often find themselves completely exhausted. When nothing is ever good enough, you keep trying and trying to make it better but never reach an end point. Remember that something can be great without it being perfect, and you will save yourself a lot of energy.
You Become Cowardly
Perfectionists are more likely to pursue things that are easy and safe. That way, they don’t run the risk of failure, destroying their perfect record of success. Taking the easy road to avoid “not being perfect” does not sound like an admirable way to live. It’s better to have tried and failed at something worthwhile than to be a perfectionist and only try things that are “easy wins.”
Your Relationships Won’t Hold Up
Whether it’s a friend or a romantic partner, perfectionists tend to hold others around them to the same standard they hold themselves. Since that standard is unattainable, it will be hard to maintain a positive and healthy relationship. You will constantly be let down by the other person. That’s no fun for you or them, and will undoubtedly put a strain on your relationship.
Criticism Turns You Into Your Worst Self
In general, perfectionists despise being told they’re not perfect. Any kind of criticism, constructive included, then becomes a source of both internal and external tension. Inside, it festers. A perfectionist is liable to take criticism as an insult instead of using it for positive change. If you feel insulted, you will probably get angry, and lashing out is not out of the question. All in all, the outcome will not be good.
It Makes You Procrastinate
Studies show that people who call themselves perfectionists have a higher likelihood of also being procrastinators. Why? They become afraid to do their work for fear of not doing it well enough. That anxiety causes them to put it off until they can’t put it off anymore. Procrastination tends to result in poorer quality work in the end, which means they end up further from “perfection” than ever.