Monogamy is not for everyone, and that’s okay. Being non-monogamous can be as healthy as any other relationship, albeit a bit more difficult, at least in the beginning. Plenty of people are in open relationships these days and are happy as can be. The trick is learning how to make it work. These five tips will help put you in the right frame of mind to have a successful open relationship.
Transparency Is Crucial
Everyone involved in an open relationship should be completely aware of the situation or expect trouble. This means being clear about what you want from each partner and what your goals are with each aspect of the relationship. If you’re just looking for sex with someone, tell them. If you expect to be the priority for someone, that should also be known. All in all, honesty is crucial if you want an open relationship to function well.
Rules Are Your Friends
If there’s one thing most people agree on in how to approach an open relationship, it’s that it will likely fail without rules. While you can’t make rules about how to feel, you can make rules that regulate behavior. For instance, some couples in open relationships set parameters at no mutual friends, not discussing details, or not using the shared living space with others. Regardless of what rules your set, rules there should be.
Say Goodbye To Comparing Yourself To Others
Love isn’t a competition, or at least it doesn’t have to be. We can love more than one person without loving one of them any less. Your open relationship will be easier if you don’t compare yourself to anyone else your partner might be . Accept that you’re both doing this because you know it’s possible to love different people in different ways without one being better than the other.
It’s Not All Sunshine And Rainbows
Open relationships are hard. You’re going to have bad days. There is no way around it, so it’s better to just accept it. The likelihood is that at times, you will feel jealous, sad, and frustrated. That’s normal. However, being aware of this will help you in learning to cope with your emotions in healthy ways. As long as the lines of communication are open, it will get easier.
Compersion Is The Name Of The Game
The polyamorous principle known as “compersion” means deriving joy from your partner’s . If jealousy had an opposite, compersion would be it. When you genuinely feel happy when the one you love is happy, their love for someone else makes you happy too. And it goes both ways. Open relationships are most likely to thrive with mutual compersion, because bliss will ensue from all angles.